std: Remove `iter::ByRef` and generalize impls

std: Remove `iter::ByRef` and generalize impls

This removes the `ByRef` iterator adaptor to stay in line with the changes to
`std::io`. The `by_ref` method instead just returns `&mut Self`.

This also removes the implementation of `Iterator for &mut Iterator` and instead
generalizes it to `Iterator for &mut I` where `I: Iterator + ?Sized`. The
`Box<I>` implementations were also updated.

This is a breaking change due to the removal of the `std::iter::ByRef` type. All
mentions of `ByRef<'a, T>` should be replaced with `&mut T` to migrate forward.

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