Use `jemalloc-sys` on Linux and OSX compilers

Use `jemalloc-sys` on Linux and OSX compilers

This commit adds opt-in support to the compiler to link to `jemalloc` in
the compiler. When activated the compiler will depend on `jemalloc-sys`,
instruct jemalloc to unprefix its symbols, and then link to it. The
feature is activated by default on Linux/OSX compilers for x86_64/i686
platforms, and it's not enabled anywhere else for now. We may be able to
opt-in other platforms in the future! Also note that the opt-in only
happens on CI, it's otherwise unconditionally turned off by default.

Closes #36963